Moomin friendship skills – educational material by The Red Cross teaches children about emotions

How can I get to know someone, and will I be as nervous as Moomintroll? What should I do if I have an argument with a friend? Why do some people like to play by themselves more than others? These are some of the things that children think about. To answer these questions, The Finnish Red Cross has created a free learning material called Friendship skills with the Moomins.

Many teachers have told the Red Cross there is a great need to discuss emotional skills and friendship even with very small children. The Friendship skills with the Moomins entity was created to meet this clear demand. It is based on a Friendship skills programme intended for young people, which was produced by the Red Cross in cooperation with MIELI Mental Health Finland.  

Schools and preschools are excellent places to support the development of children’s friendship skills. In the Friendship skills with the Moomins learning material produced by the Finnish Red Cross, the Moomin characters inspire children to learn friendship skills through functional games, animations as well as mindfulness and discussion exercises. 

Snufkin’s tent is a good place to relax

Mindfulness exercises in the material include learning how to relax like Snufkin in his tent, how to use your senses in the Moominhouse kitchen and how to concentrate like Moominpappa – after all, he needs to clear his head of other thoughts before he starts writing his memoirs.

In the video below from Friendship skills with the Moomins material, viewers learn through familiar Moomin characters that there are different ways to be alone. Snufkin loves being outdoors and fishing. He is very comfortable alone, sometimes for long periods of time. But not everyone chooses to be alone.

The second video looks at what makes a good friend. There are many different kinds of friends, and you can do different things with different friends. You can also disagree with them. Sometimes friends will have arguments, but that’s OK, as long as they work it out. It’s good to know how to ask for forgiveness and forgive, even if it can sometimes feel difficult.

Use Friendship skills with the Moomins at home 

The Friendship skills with the Moomins material is mainly aimed at pre-school and primary school children and their teachers, but it can also be used by parents at home with their children. Many of the exercises can certainly be useful for parents too – for example, self-compassion and compassion or self-awareness are topics that many parents have probably not had much opportunity to think about during their own school career.

The free material is available in Finnish, Swedish and English. It has attracted widespread interest elsewhere – for example, the Japanese National Red Cross is currently translating it into Japanese.

What’s in Moominmamma’s handbag?

The Montessori kindergarten in Myllypuro, Helsinki, Finland has been using the Moomin friendship skills material for a few months. The results of the training are already visible in concrete actions such as hugs and apologies.


Iyas and a Moomin plushie. Image: Jenna Lehtonen

A black handbag is passed from hand to hand as the children sit in a ring on a mat. Jenna Tomperi, 36, an instructor and early childhood education teacher, puts on music and asks the children to close their eyes. Some do as instructed, others can’t help but peek. Little fingers fumble around the bottom of the handbag, feeling its contents one by one.

What’s in Moominmamma’s bag this time? Soon the item hidden in the handbag will be revealed to all.

– Who wants to tell me what the object felt like? Tomperi asks.

The answers range from a blue butterfly to a feather to a bird to a flower.

The handbag and its contents are an essential part of one the mindfulness exercises which can be found in the Friendship Skills with the Moomins material.

Photo: Jenna Lehtonen

Moominamma’s handbag helps to focus on the moment

Finding the treasures in the handbag helps children to be in the present in the moment through their sense of touch.
Judging by the joyful squeals, the exercise appeals to many.

Tomperi slips her hand into the bag and pulls out something small and light.

– A feather, the children exclaim in unison.
The children in the Bengal Tigers group blow on the feather, which floats towards the floor as a signal that it’s time for the next task.

Friedship skills are useful throughout life

It is especially useful to practise social skills in the autumn, when new children start kindergarten and some move to pre-school groups. Functional games, animated videos and a variety of mindfulness and conversation exercises can teach children skills and habits that will be useful throughout their lives.

At its simplest, it can be as easy as asking a friend: can I take this toy, or are you still playing with it?

The Moomin Friendship Skills material uses videos, colouring pictures, games and mindfulness exercises. Photo by Jenna Lehtonen/Finnish Red Cross

Learning to apologise and ask for help

Tomperi usually uses the Moomin exercises once a week for about half an hour.

She points out how important emotional and communication skills are both in childhood and in adulthood. The more you practise them, the stronger they become. By practising friendship skills from an early age, children learn to act in a way that is constructive both for themselves and for their environment.

Although the activities in the Friendship skills with the Moomins material have only been part of the weekly programme for the children for a few months, Tomperi says the impact is already visible in practice.

– Spontaneous moments of helping are more visible. Apologising is also clearly easier for many.

New learnings culminate in a friendship party

Hugging seems to be easy too. This is revealed when Tomperi starts a game where children imitate a crab and walk across the floor with their faces towards the ceiling.

As soon as the Moomin music stops, the children cling to each other’s necks. No one is left alone. Iyas, dressed in a Moomin sweater, looks like he’s going to burst with joy when he receives a hug from his friends.

Iyas and his friends are excited about the power of a group hug. Photo by Jenna Lehtonen

– Challenge yourself in the next section. Don’t run to your best friend, find a friend you’re not used to hugging, says Tomperi.

Soon there are groups of three and couples giggling on the floor, holding each other in a tight hug. It’s a sight one would like to apply in the adult working world as well.

Friendly acts increase the number of beads in the glass jar

Being present, making friends, self-esteem, compassion and loneliness are all skills that need to be practised, whatever your age. Playing games of affection and interaction together strengthens the team spirit of the group.

– We’ve made drawings on a friend’s back, applied invisible magic balm and ridden on the group’s shared hug train,” says Tomperi.

The Montessori kindergarten in Myllypuro encourages friendship skills and good deeds.

An extra bead appears in a glass jar in the kindergarten every time someone has reported a good friendship deed. When the jar is full, so many deeds have been accumulated that the Bengal Tigers group will organise a friendship party.

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Text and photos from the reportage of the Montessori kindergarten in Myllypuro: copyright Jenna Lehtonen/Red Cross. Read a longer version of the reportage in the Red Cross Avun Maailma magazine 1/2023.